Arguments resolved

There are a few times in you life where you really get to see the fruits of your labor.

Today my 16 year old son and I got into an argument about some behavior that I didn't like and I asked him to stop.
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But what happened after we'd resolved the argument and gotten to a level place really amazed me.  This was all in the same conversation.

My son asked me to go on a snorkeling trip with his high school/ROTC friends.
No offense here to my dad, but I'd have viewed my chance to get to a snorkeling trip at 16 as a great way to get AWAY from my family, not take it along with me.

My views now are a bit different at 48.

I paused for about 15-30 seconds (I was stunned at what I had just been asked) and then looked him square in the eye and gave a very firm "Yes".
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I'm thinking of letting him back out of it, but part of me doesn't want to give him the option of backing out.


Me, I have to get in shape once I find out what the hell I just signed up for.

Reposted from Aug 12, 2016

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