I grew up with depression and loneliness as my constant companions when young. I never had real friends till I came to Arizona when I was 14 as we moved yearly and I was always "the new kid". It's one reason I've never moved from Arizona, as once I found friends I didn't want to leave them, and I didn't want my kids to repeat my experience.
I learned how to cope (barely) with being alone, lonely, angry, depressed, suicidal, and homicidal. Those coping skills that I self-learned do NOT serve me well in a world where I value connection, compassion and being in relationship with others.
Unlearning/Deprogramming from habits and poor coping skills (retreating into self, self hate, isolation, self destruction) has been a journey of understanding, self-discovery, and self-compassion for the wounded child/adult that still lives within. It a journey that I travel every day.
Struggling with mental health is not weakness or mean that you are broken, It means that you are a human being. We all go through difficulties and trauma in life and getting help with managing them skillfully (or as skillfully as you can) is not weakness, it's having the courage to see clearly what's arising/wrong and to seek help to try to do something about it.
Seek assistance if you're struggling. There are LOTS of great resources today that help normalize and teach good/better coping skills that *WILL* help you get through this, and will also serve you well throughout your life.
Be well,
Ron
https://takethis.org
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